“The family that prays together stays together – not only in time; but in eternity.”

It is not good for humans to be alone. If you have found that special someone, enjoy the time with him or her. I met that special someone in 1991 and got married to Hema who is not only my wife but a good friend. Initial days were full of joy and dreams for the future. Soon reality hit us and differences emerged. As head of the family I used to insist on my own comforts, personal selfish wishes and desires which eventually ended in quarrels followed by long aggrieved silence. At the same time being the cause of hurt used to pain me deeply.

Awareness of your pattern is the key to change and progress. As I became conscious of my harmful behavior, I concentrated on eliminating such behavior. It was a long time before I stopped using hurtful words. As we grew old in marriage our relationship stablised. The birth of our first child Snehal heralded again those days of happiness. We would spend endless hours thinking and planning for her future. After five years we got our second daughter Komal and our family became complete. We decided to bring up our children in a healthy atmosphere with love and care. I think children are the centre of a family circle. It is really a great pleasure to hug a child on returning home after office hours. It releases all tensions, worries and you become one with the child.

The greatest enemy of marital happiness is lack of time and I have experienced this enemy. I would always have few pressing requirements in the office at the end of the day and by the time I returned home it would be late. I hardly gave quality time to my family. I always justified my behaviour as duty but did not realise how much it mattered to my family to have me at home in the evenings until I met with the idea of IofC. It taught me to love and care for others. I corrected myself and started participating in homemaker’s activity. It built trust with my wife and my attitude towards my family changed. We normally do not interfere in each others individuality. Now I think we have learned to love and respect each other. The words of appreciation and helping in small matters have strengthened our relationship and it benefits other members. Hema and I strive everyday to give our family love and care where everyone will have freedom with responsibility. To be a successful family it is important that both husband and wife pray together. It reminds me of a saying: “The family that prays together stays together – not only in time; but in eternity.” When we all have trust, faith and our family goals are clear, it becomes easy going. All of us as a family are walking towards fulfilling these goals and live life king-size.

Pravin Bhosale,
(Pravin Bhosale has served in the Indian Navy for fifteen years and is currently the Manager (Administration) at Asia Plateau and he lives on the campus with his family. His wife Hema Bhosale looks after the visitors at Asia Plateau.)